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April 27th, 2011

All Good Things Must Come to an End

They say all good things must come to an end and so my time writing for Kink Academy is nearly over.  It’s been an interesting semester and I’m surprised at how it’s flown past in a blur.  My aim was to write about my experiences and how I’ve incorporated what I’ve seen into my life.  The past 3 months have been quite chaotic for me, with a lot going on and sometimes the kinkier aspects of who I am have fallen by the wayside a little but I’ve had Kink Academy to remind me to make an effort and some of the things I’ve learnt about and done have really helped strengthen my relationships.

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April 24th, 2011

New Experiences

Sometimes a good scene is all you need to make your troubles melt away!

I’m one of those people who carry a lot of tension and stress around with them all of the time. I’m a worry-wort. Sure, I have anxiety problems, but I’m also just quite a stressed person. Little things make me worry and will wind me up for days. I’m highly strung and I know it. A tend to feel most of this tension in my upper back and shoulders, with various people commenting on it. It hinders my dancing (I’m learning how to lindy hop and really need to loosen up at times) and it can make it hard for me to relax.

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April 17th, 2011

Sex Ed 101

Sex education is a really important thing, something which I personally think needs to be covered in schools by properly trained people, several times over the course of formal education, starting early enough to try and catch those who develop early. However much we might not like it, children are trying to grow up quicker, being exposed to more and more sexual images earlier on and, until we get to the route of the problem, people are going to be experimenting earlier. One of my favourite things about Kink Academy is the range of videos on the more basic things, such as safety and health related issues.

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April 9th, 2011

Kinky and Crafty

I’m a huge fan of crafting; I knit, do cross stitch and enjoy creating things. I also love munches. It’s great to have a social space to chat with fellow kinky people and get to know them. I think it’s easy to meet different people in a vanilla setting; there’s no hiding behind the latex clothing or being judged for your play style, you just get to hang out with like-minded people. So what better way than to combine the two and have a crafty munch?

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April 4th, 2011

Teacher’s Pet

When I was at school, I had a favourite teacher who I was constantly trying to impress and get in the good books of. Being good at her subject, it was pretty easy and looking back, I was definitely a teacher’s pet. I’m starting to think that, if Kink Academy was a bricks and mortar school that I could actually attend, Gray Dancer would be that teacher for me. He’s definitely my favourite faculty member currently and I really enjoy watching what he has to say. And what’s more, he really is very informative and I think I have learnt the most from him, so far.

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March 27th, 2011

Hair Pulling

So, in my previous post, I talked about reconnecting with S, the BDSM aspect helping with that feeling but it got me thinking about one aspect of the scene in particular, hair pulling. There are a couple of very good videos on Kink Academy. One is part of the Full Contact Dom series, with GrayDancer. This video is very interesting and along with Arthur Hate’s video on Hair Play, I really had a lot to think about.

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March 20th, 2011


I think there always comes a time in relationships when that honeymoon period is over and things start to settle into a pattern. Stability and familiarly is nice but sometimes it can be nice to shake things up again. It’s never that the fire’s gone out but just turned down low, running low on fuel. I know the feeling well; 10 years with someone means that those flames have been all over the place at times. Real life can get in the way; household worries, health problems, work, study…all kinds of things. You don’t always notice straight away, life will continue comfortably and perfectly well but getting that energy back can do wonders for a relationship.

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March 9th, 2011


I suffer from anxiety and although it doesn’t effect me all the time, it is something I have to deal with on a pretty regular basis. Once upon a time, I didn’t really cope with it well, and there’s still times now that I find it hard but I’m also beginning to realise that I can use kink as a way to help work through it. A really good sensual and deep session, with a long work up to send me off to another place.

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March 3rd, 2011

Polyamorous Rollercoaster

All relationships have their ups and downs, a natural progession.  Sometimes they will be high as a kite, filling you with glee.  Other times there will be dips where your paths barely cross and your alone whilst together.  And there’s everything in between too.  Or so I’ve found.  Monogomous people seem to forget this when they see a polyamorous relationship going wrong, or even not being perfect.  Sure, polyamory has its complexities but the general problems will quite probably still be there even if other partners aren’t involved.

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February 24th, 2011

Delving into my dark side

I wouldn’t say that I’m new to kink. I may only be 25 but ever since I’ve been sexually active (oh how I love that phrase!), I’ve been kinky. From being tied to the bed with charity shop ties to scratching my arms, playing dress up to being spanked over his knee, I’ve never just been interested in vanilla sex. Don’t get me wrong, I love vanilla sex, especially on lazy Sunday mornings but I also love things a bit dirtier, a bit rougher, a bit kinky.

Obviously, I’ve grown as a person over those years and, in all aspects of my life, my tastes have changed.

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